Doctor, I am a wife with something on my conscience. I have been married for 13 years and I have two beautiful children. I love my husband and he is a good man. But 10 years ago, when I was away on a training course, I was unfaithful to him. I am so ashamed to tell you that, I don’t know why I did it. But maybe it was because I was away from home and lonely, and this other man was sensationally attractive – handsome face, great physique, charming manner. I later found out, however, that he had sex with two other women who were on the same course.
Well, I took the final exam, passed with flying colours, and came home. I hugged and kissed my husband, because I was just so pleased to see him. I decided that I must put the memory of that affair out of my mind. But I couldn’t, Doctor. For 10 years now, I have been waking up in the night and thinking about it. I am filled with guilt. Sometimes I dream that I am naked in the other man’s arms and that my husband walks in the door and catches us. On these occasions, I sometimes wake up screaming.
My husband knows nothing about all this. He is aware that I am currently feeling nervy and not sleeping well, but he does not know why.
So I have two questions:
1. Would sleeping tablets help me?
2. Should I confess my sin to my husband?
A: You are clearly carrying a heavy burden, but sleeping tablets will not help you. They will not stop those bad dreams – and they might even make them worse. Furthermore, it is now known that it is very easy to get hooked on those pills – making everything worse for the patient.