And you thought Indian women form the most docile lot, who seldom choose to talk about their sexual gratification or the lack of it? Well, looks like you’ve just been proven wrong!
According to Dr. Nisha Khanna, a leading psychologist, marriage counselor and a relationship expert, more and more women are coming out of the closet about their sexual dissatisfaction, specially the married ones. We spoke with the doctor, who has been working over the years with couples to help them put their marriages back together and the revelations about the sexual frustrations of Indian women were absolutely startling!
According to Khanna, most Indian women have started complaining about lack of sex, since the busy careers of their husbands/partners are not leaving them with enough time for sex and because women are well aware of orgasms and epitome of sexual satisfaction, they are not ready to compromise anymore.
“I’ve had various couples walking into my clinic, who’ve not even consummated their marriage properly. Some of the newlyweds haven’t had sex more than 10 times in the span of one year, that’s alarming and women in these marriages are anything but happy.
Dr. Khanna attributes this sexual discontent mainly to the fact that an increased number of Indian men are seeking emotional enrichment in their marriages and because they are leading busy lives, they are opting for an emotional connect over a sexual one.
As per Khanna, lack of sex is one of the main reasons some Indian women have started initiating extramarital affairs because their husbands are not able to fulfill their carnal desires.
“When men fail to devote time to their wives, the better halves start feeling ignored and some of them even go to the extent of avenging the ignorance by beginning affairs with men, who are half their age. The best part- these women make sure the husbands get to know about it. What’s more, when their male partners follow the same route, these very women have the double standard of not approving the illicit affairs of their respective partners,” Dr. Nisha was quoted as saying, while explaining the extent to which Indian women are ready to go to pleasure themselves.
As per Khanna, women are living in fictitious world and are seemingly getting obsessed with sexual satiation instead of focusing on what they can do to make their marriage work.
Asked what she suggests to couples, who are on the verge of a divorce due to lack of sex, Khanna quips, “Eventually, the mature partner has to work on to saving the marriage by addressing the unrealistic expectations of their partner. They have to be told that sex is just one ingredient important to the recipe called ‘marriage’ and it’s not the only important ingredient.”