We each have remarkable sexual tastes, and our drives fluctuate limitlessly in quality. To confuse things further, our sexual inclinations aren’t static: They develop as we age, and diverse variables hormonal, mental, situational, and natural become possibly the most important factor. So when two individuals two people with particular, regularly changing fleshly tastes—match up, it can require some investment and push to build up a suggestive compatibility that is reasonable past the indecent special first night stage. Anyhow, this shouldn’t imply that its inconceivable, and the prizes of making sense of it are really incredible.
When it comes to a couple’s sexual habits, there are more possibilities than there are flavors of Heinz ketchup. But long-term satisfaction is definitely attainable. Below are some signs you’re in a healthy sexual relationship.
Sex at any time:
You do new stuff together outside the bedroom; too, understanding that a sexual relationship transcends whatever goes on beneath the sheets. Passion can be stoked through sharing new experiences anywhere, at any time.
When your partner takes a trip, there isn’t necessarily a break in your sex life. You keep things going from a distance, whether that means exchanging erotic emails, talking dirty over the phone, orchestrating a mutual masturbatory Skype session, or sexting.
Like each other:
You don’t care if the lights are on or off when you’re naked together because you make each other feel confident in all circumstances.
Share sex experience:
You share masturbation stories—when, how, and why you touched yourself in your partner’s absence—with each other only. You discuss highlights from sexcapades past, sharing memories and arguing over which of your encounters were hottest, and why.
You check in regularly with each other to see if the other person is sexually satisfied overall, and if they have any future requests. You withhold judgment during all sex related chats. Sometimes, you have sex when you’re not at all in the mood—because even when you’re least aroused, it’s satisfying to pleasure your partner.
You’re not intimidated by any of your partner’s exes because what you have is better, stronger, and current. There are no requests to un-friend members of the opposite sex, either virtually or IRL because there’s no need for that.
You have code words for certain sex acts and/or pet names for each other’s body parts. In the dark of a movie theater, you instinctively reach for the other person—their hand, elbow, shoulder, leg, or groin, depending on your personal limits—during every sexy scene. This is your way of communicating that you’re envisioning each other in place of the actors.
You don’t have to look or feel your best to have great sex because even when you’re wearing old sweats, sick with a cold, or droopy-eyed following a long day at work, your partner manages to make you feel attractive.
In the process of trying out new positions, you end up tangling yourselves into a human knot that can’t possibly be listed in the Kama Sutra. Together you claim naming rights, even if no one else knows about it ever. A tiny part of you looks forward to fighting because there’s nothing better than makeup sex.