You see a lot of things about what men can do during sex to make it better for the woman, but there’s a lot less information – and opinion – on the mistakes women make. Most women create these mistakes over and over again. So let’s set the record straight. Here are the top mistakes women create while having sex.
# Not Getting A Bikini Wax
Keep it groomed ladies. Not any guy wants to have to hack through a forest just to get to your pot of gold.
# Having Sex In The Dark
Men are visual creatures. If you really want to turn him on, turn on the lights, or at least light a candle.
# Being Too Gentle When You Touch His Penis
Men like a firmer touch than women, especially when it comes to their penises. If you ever have the pleasure of watching him masturbate, you’ll see how much pressure he uses on his penis – especially as he nears orgasm. If you’re doing it for him, ask him to tell you what you’re doing right and what he’d like done differently. He’ll really appreciate your efforts to give him more pleasure.
# Expecting Him To Read Your Mind
Yes, we know it’s difficult to express your sexual desires directly. But men don’t think like women. They don’t read clues, they don’t get hints. So stop communicating indirectly, and tell him what you want. And give him feedback when you get it! That way, he’ll know exactly what he’s supposed to be doing, how you feel about it, and whether to do it again. For example, if you like what he’s doing during sex, let him know with your moans of pleasure.
# Not Shaving Your Legs
Hairy legs are a turn off. Keep them smooth and silky.
# Laying There Like A Dead Flounder
Don’t just lay there and let him do all the work. No matter how great you look, you need to make some moves.
# Using Cosmo as a Sex Bible
Cosmo is just for fun. It can ruin your relationship if you use it as a sex bible.
# Letting Him Takes Responsibility For Your Orgasm
A lot of us think that a man somehow has a responsibility to “give” a woman an orgasm during sex. After all, that’s how a lot of us were brought up – which a man somehow has to look after “his” woman. And that idea extends to making sure she has an orgasm during sex…..but the truth is that women are responsible for their own orgasms. So while it might be nice for your man to help you get there, if you don’t make it to orgasm through his efforts, you can always take matters into your own hands.
# Expecting Him to Cuddle
Sometimes a man just needs his space after sex. His body shuts down. It’s nothing against you.
# Not Making Up With Sex After An Argument
Well, yes, I know that a lot of couples do make up with sex when they’ve had an argument, but in fact many more don’t. As I said above, most women think that they need to be feeling loving and emotionally close before they want sex. Yet I’ve met a lot of couples in my work as a sexual therapist who have found that taking the risk and jumping into bed can work really well as a way of getting close again.